Be submissive, dominated can meet your erotic fantasies or discover them in a new way, bringing balance between work and sexual life. You choose and check which form will be better for you. Some people wants to be dominated and others wants to dominate.
There are many myths in popular media about BDSM (Bondage & Discipline/Domination and Submission/Sadism & Masochism). But there are also many useful information.
What caused that around this community are so many myths, while the truth may suprise you.
After E.L. James bestseller “50 Shades of Grey” and based on that novel movie, popularity around the idea of BDSM has grown. This is a good information that many people thus opened up to new experiences. Something they wanted to try but were afraid what others could think about their fantasies.
However, it became a lot of conflicting information too. Do you want to learn about the BDSM myths that arose after “50 Shades of Grey” novel and movie? Understanding them can open a new perspective on the benefits that result from BDSM. Take a look at the three most common myths below.
Myth one. In BDSM man always has a dominant role.
“50 Shades of Grey” presents like this is a normal. What really is the truth?
Among the kinky (mean unconventional sexual preference or behavior), so also called BDSM community, you decide how you want to fulfill your fantasies. Your imagination only limited you.
Most people believe that men should be in a dominant role to show how they are masculine. While practice and BDSM community are proving that instead some men like to play the role of being dominated by dominant woman because it gives openness to new experiences and balance in everyday life.
Balance, often missed by people who are in the dominating role through the whole working day, where they are stressed and make a lot of decisions for which take the responsibility.
Is it not a cultural revolution which we already know? The woman dominates man. Nothing could be further from the truth, it is all about role playing. Man being submissive by dominant woman is not the same as being dominated in a real life.
The truth is usually quite different. Professional Mistress, woman with 12 years of experience say about her most loyal customers:
“My personal opinion based on years of experience with clients suggests that the more intelligent and relating more successful person, whether male or female, the more open and strongly is involved in BDSM.
Why?
First of all, the brain is the biggest sexual organ, and everything there begins. If you are smart and intelligent your sexual fantasies could be richer, defined and unconventional.
Secondly, for those who every day are in a position of control, with high stress and dominate at work, needs rest and break from that role. It helps them maintain balance in their life.
It doesn’t mean that my clients want to be dominated all the time. Most often this is when the pressure of work-life increases. “
Myth two. BDSM is dangerous form of violence and is only about pain
Imagine. You are preparing for a marathon. Every day you train, run so fast and so far that your muscles ache, feel pain. During marathon even you fall to your knees, feel really exhausted, but when finally cross the finish line, you starts to feel fulfillment, happy and pain just disappears. Similarly, rock climbing, boxing, gymnastics, football, skiing or crossfit. Not to mention sky diving.
These are all experiences, during which we feel pain, we give everything, often exposing ourselves to serious injuries or accidents, and still we enjoy working on it. Why? When we engage in these behaviors, experiences we make a personal cost benefit analisys. On the other hand feeling after finished training or competition can lift us to a higher level of satisfaction.
Submissive engage in various degrees of BDSM, from spanking, flogging into dungeon play experiencing the same.
Most people imagine that this pain is comparable with pain at the dentist office without anesthetic.
But the truth is that in the kinky community pain is comparable to the pain described above. In most mentioned sports examples pain seems to be more dangerous than BDSM, in fact, controlled and carried out skillfully can lead to ecstasy, which hardly anyone can experience.
People enjoy sports because it makes them happy and they excites about them, not for the benefit of others. Similarly, in the BDSM community, where everyone wants to fulfill their fantasies and this really excites them.
Most of people who train is not embarrassed, as if they were embarrassed by getting a good whipping on the ass of his Mistress.
Much of kink is about drama of a scene, rather then causing harm. All they experience, is part of the whole game just like running a marathon. Some people practice sports, preparing for competition, others BDSM. It depends on what do you like and what kind of preferences do you have. Preferences can be something what you can discover in the course of this road.
If you want to experience BDSM do not try to restrict. Instead, try what works best for you and what are your fantasies and you will see that during this road you might be pleasantly surprised.
Myth 3. Submissive person is weak and dominant is powerful
The truth is quite the opposite. The person who is in the rtoys used in BDSMole of being dominated decide how far DOM (dominating person) can go. Submissive can say special words or gesture predetermined earlier which suggest:
“You want more”, “This is ok” or “This is enough, let’s finish our playing.”
This means that person who is in a submissive role still have control about that what happens while trusting in the partner. That’s why people who are emotionally strong, whether men or women, may agree to entrust the care of the dominant. DOM, who fully understands these needs and desire to fulfill them and appreciates it.
Being dominated can be very sexy, especially for the person who every day has everything under control and wants to have a break from such duties. The only thing he wants is to take care of him or her.
Despite many myths that followed the book and movie “50 Shades of Grey” we can find also some positive aspects.
Many people starts to explore idea of BDSM, which means that we want to feel new experiences, discover them in a new way or fulfill our fantasies. You can meet those experiences in many ways, whether use sexy toys, role playing or whatever you imagine. If you want to learn more about this world, that’s all before you.
Not only you can read about it on our blog in the future, but begin to experience and reach for more information. Maybe you want to dominate or be dominated, depends on you, and only imagination is the way to do this what awaits you. Try it and you will see and know the taste of the world of pleasure, as you want.
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